It's weird how we were so repulsed by boys and making love when we were kids. Until the hormones went crazy and then that's probably all we can think of now (maybe not consciously, but you now that that's the only thing at the back of your mind).
Discussing about the good looking guys, teasing each other, crushing on the hotties, imagining your entire future life married to that cute guy whom you haven't even spoken to yet, so on and so forth. Those were the days, and it's still the same today. And all of a sudden we were in our very first relationships. What a grown up thing indeed!
The beginning with innumerable complements, gifts, displays of love, care and affection. That first smile, That first kiss. That first time you held his hand, hugged him and felt safe. That first touch. Really really special, these moments. Irreplaceable. All so easy and care free. The toughest part was probably hiding it from our parents.
Soon after, THE FIRST BREAK UP. Tragedy, tragedy, tragedy. Crying yourself to sleep, thinking about him all day, hating him and loving him at the same time, feeling used and disappointed, listening to Taylor Swift, just waiting for a chance to speak to him and make up. Remember how after a break up it is so below one's dignity to pick up the phone, make the first call and show how needy you truly are. Well, in my first experience I dropped way down below my level of dignity just to let him know that I still loved him (and hated him) and that I was ever ready to welcome him back. All in vain, in fact everything seems so vain after your first break up or any break up for that matter. You can get all the advice you need, but you'll never know what's the right thing to do. So here my friends, what's important is the moment. Yeah I know it's really painful to be in that situation, but it's amazing how after sometime you get a whole new perspective on life and so many things seem clearer to you. To me that moment is actually very exciting. At that moment I get all jumpy, hyper and energetic, ready to move on realizing that there are sooooooooooooo many better things to do and soooooooooooo many other fish in the ocean. And of course it goes without saying that it's really tough getting to that moment without your friends, so hey you all, I love you.
Some people say your first love is never forgotten. Probably true. Some say your first love is your true love. I say rubbish. Here, I was actually gonna say that we're too immature and deep into our fantasy worlds at that stage that we feel that the guy is your one and only forever just coz he calls up every night and opens the car door for you. But, something just occurred to me. Of course it was true love. Why, I'd say that every love that you've ever had and will ever have will be true. Coz love is innocent, pure and can never be false (Cheezy, i know). Even though we say "I love you" to the person, what we actually love is the moment spent with the person and how you felt at that particular time (and maybe the person's ability to make the moment special). Somewhat like the grammatical case of the clause 'transferred epithet', well if my concept about that clause is clear.
Everybody wants to love, everybody wants to be loved. But, after a break up most of us are so overwhelmed by the rush of emotions that we're afraid to fall in love again, fearing that we may have to go through the whole process again. But falling in love, again is just for the moment, a moment that may last forever or may not. We have little control over that. So when love comes your way, and I mean when you actually feel loved, don't ruin the moment, enjoy it till it lasts. And also a special mention, those desperate to fall in love, give it a break, the moment will arrive ;).
Every relationship teaches us something, as does the other things in life. The most important thing being that nothing is ever permanent. I've found myself in my third (theoretically fourth) and best relationship so far over the years. I've probably forgotten how it feels to be single. This time, again as always, it feels like true love. I've had moments of joy, sadness, loneliness, fun, laughter, hatred and so many more in these few months of this relationship. And most importantly I experience the "falling in love" moment every day of it. Yes, I fall in love with him everyday.
You've got just one shot at life, and innumerable chances at love. Take it while you still have it. You may not have the power to make the moment last, but you've definitely got everything it takes to make it worthwhile. Is my current relationship gonna last forever? I seriously hope it does, from every little corner of my heart. But I don't know and can't control what the future holds. I'll welcome all that life has to offer with all that I have. As for now, I'm just living and loving the moment.
-Awesome A
"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like nobody's listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth."
-William W. Purkey
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams"
-Dr. Seuss
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that"
-Martin Luther King Jr.
"There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment"
-Sarah Dessen
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."
-Lao Tzu
"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
-Robert A. Heinlein
"Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it."
-Nicholas Sparks
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